Neurodivergent Dating After Divorce | Sensory Differences, Sex & Red Flags
Season 6 (Navigating Neurodiverse Love & Life: Episode 5 | YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast with Jodi Carlton and Mona Kay
Are you neurodivergent and trying to navigate dating? Especially after a divorce? We can relate!
In this episode, my co-host, Mona Kay, and I get real about our personal dating experiences after divorce, the patterns we've learned to recognize in neurodiverse partners, and how to spot toxic, narcissistic behavior.
From info dumping on first dates to sensory quirks in the bedroom, we share candid, sometimes funny, always insightful stories that will help you navigate neurodiverse dating with more clarity, compassion — and better boundaries. Be sure to tune in for Episode 7 to catch the second half of our conversation.
Topics covered:
- Spotting neurodivergence (and narcissism) on dating apps
- Info dumping on dates — and what to do about it
- When autism and narcissism overlap
- Alcohol, self-medication & neurodivergence
- Sensory sensitivities in romantic and physical intimacy
- How to adapt without losing yourself
Timestamps:
0:00 – Teaser: When autism masks toxic behavior
1:24 – Welcome & intro: Meet Jodi & Mona
1:46 – Today's topic: dating, sex & neurodiverse relationships
2:16 – Dating in your 50s and 60s as a neurodivergent person
9:01 – Mona becomes a dating coach for her friends
9:18 – The guy with a strict 2-hour bandwidth for dates
10:35 – Real talk: there was one man who info dumped for 3 hours
11:42 – Tips for autistic daters: giving your partner space to talk
13:57 – Jodi's story: dating someone autistic AND narcissistic
17:24 – Love bombing, triangulation & the "harem"
19:13 – Don't assume it's just autism — key warning signs
20:16 – When you're constantly dysregulated in a relationship
20:49 – Mona's experience: dating an autistic man for almost a year
21:18 – Alcohol & neurodivergence: self-medicating to socialize
21:55 – Needing 6 beers just to go to a restaurant
24:10 – Sensory & intimacy differences: holding hands, kissing
28:10 – Eye contact during intimacy — an honest conversation
29:38 – The cold water toothbrush moment
30:52 – When sensory reactions feel like rejection
32:07 – Where to find Jodi & Mona
Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. Send your questions, comments, and stories about neurodiversity to podcast@jodicarlton.com or click below to be featured on an upcoming episode.
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